Comments on: When in Rome, do as the Romans do… http://milestogo.in/2009/02/12/when-in-rome-do-as-the-romans-do/ .. and miles to go before I sleep.. Wed, 16 Jun 2010 11:09:29 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Arun Chullikkal http://milestogo.in/2009/02/12/when-in-rome-do-as-the-romans-do/comment-page-1/#comment-14345 Arun Chullikkal Tue, 07 Apr 2009 13:46:02 +0000 http://milestogo.in/?p=196#comment-14345 Survival trait? It can be. But the question is, does one require a scale of survival which is more than it needs. A child at the age of 6 at any eithics or culture, would not be demanded to perform a Rasa like Sringara. They can be competative, but to the achievable level. A child performing Aisa Jaadoo is not the worship of art, but the marketing of skills instead. Alas! we have this time even to sell the innocence of a child. Chakky, I think I'm in Pottakkinar :-D (the state of being unaware of the world outside) Survival trait? It can be. But the question is, does one require a scale of survival which is more than it needs. A child at the age of 6 at any eithics or culture, would not be demanded to perform a Rasa like Sringara. They can be competative, but to the achievable level. A child performing Aisa Jaadoo is not the worship of art, but the marketing of skills instead. Alas! we have this time even to sell the innocence of a child. Chakky, I think I’m in Pottakkinar :-D (the state of being unaware of the world outside)

]]> By: nasrajan http://milestogo.in/2009/02/12/when-in-rome-do-as-the-romans-do/comment-page-1/#comment-13483 nasrajan Sun, 01 Mar 2009 06:15:21 +0000 http://milestogo.in/?p=196#comment-13483 Nakul - I am so grateful that my parents did not define ethics for me. Instead, they taught me a lot of things, hinted a few other, made me read good books and bad books and finally stood by me when I defined my own. I don't care who defines ethics or how. Nakul and Chakky, hating vulgar dances is my personal choice, not how society views it. At the same time, that is not the reason I wrote this post. Its my way of thanking my parents who thought different. A seed has to sprout first, to know how its growth will be. Similiarly, I believe a kid's inborn talents should come up instead of trimming the sprout and make it a Bonsai. Nakul – I am so grateful that my parents did not define ethics for me. Instead, they taught me a lot of things, hinted a few other, made me read good books and bad books and finally stood by me when I defined my own. I don’t care who defines ethics or how. Nakul and Chakky, hating vulgar dances is my personal choice, not how society views it. At the same time, that is not the reason I wrote this post. Its my way of thanking my parents who thought different.

A seed has to sprout first, to know how its growth will be. Similiarly, I believe a kid’s inborn talents should come up instead of trimming the sprout and make it a Bonsai.

]]> By: Nakul http://milestogo.in/2009/02/12/when-in-rome-do-as-the-romans-do/comment-page-1/#comment-13432 Nakul Thu, 26 Feb 2009 10:49:32 +0000 http://milestogo.in/?p=196#comment-13432 I might join this nice little discussion…. ‘Ethics’ is indeed a relative term as mentioned by Chakky. It is no more the same for a 6 year old who stepped out of her own for the first time to join the nearest GLP school in to the first standard around 20-22 years back; and to the new breed who is brought up seeing Roadies, Big brother and all these other bunch of musical (Non-)realityshows; fed with the gizmos and born to the Playschool-KGs much before she actually learns to say Amma.. Yes, ethics isn’t the same. To some one lack of it is a gain, a earned skill to survive in the ever so competetive world. But, some how I still feel like driving home the intention to keep my kids out of all these enigma, letting them grow on their own, decide what they want to do. Life shouldnt be an extended reality show in home for the kid, hope it wouldnt be.. I might join this nice little discussion….

‘Ethics’ is indeed a relative term as mentioned by Chakky. It is no more the same for a 6 year old who stepped out of her own for the first time to join the nearest GLP school in to the first standard around 20-22 years back; and to the new breed who is brought up seeing Roadies, Big brother and all these other bunch of musical (Non-)realityshows; fed with the gizmos and born to the Playschool-KGs much before she actually learns to say Amma.. Yes, ethics isn’t the same. To some one lack of it is a gain, a earned skill to survive in the ever so competetive world. But, some how I still feel like driving home the intention to keep my kids out of all these enigma, letting them grow on their own, decide what they want to do. Life shouldnt be an extended reality show in home for the kid, hope it wouldnt be..

]]> By: Nakul http://milestogo.in/2009/02/12/when-in-rome-do-as-the-romans-do/comment-page-1/#comment-13431 Nakul Thu, 26 Feb 2009 10:44:34 +0000 http://milestogo.in/?p=196#comment-13431 If I might join this nice little discussion.... 'Ethics' is indeed a relative term as mentioned by Chakky. It is no more the same for a 6 year old who steps out of her own for the first time to join the nearest GLP school in to the first standard around 20-22 years; and to the new breed who is brought up seeing Roadies, Big brother and all these other bunch of musical (Non-)realityshows; fed with the gizmos and born to the Playschool-KGs much before she actually learns to say Amma.. Yes, ethics isn't the same. To some one lack of it is a gain, a earned skill to survive in the ever so competetive world. But, some how I still feel like driving home the intention to keep my kids out of all these enigma, letting them grow on their own, decide what they want to do. Life shouldnt be an extended reality show in home for the kid, hope it wouldnt be.. If I might join this nice little discussion….

‘Ethics’ is indeed a relative term as mentioned by Chakky. It is no more the same for a 6 year old who steps out of her own for the first time to join the nearest GLP school in to the first standard around 20-22 years; and to the new breed who is brought up seeing Roadies, Big brother and all these other bunch of musical (Non-)realityshows; fed with the gizmos and born to the Playschool-KGs much before she actually learns to say Amma.. Yes, ethics isn’t the same. To some one lack of it is a gain, a earned skill to survive in the ever so competetive world. But, some how I still feel like driving home the intention to keep my kids out of all these enigma, letting them grow on their own, decide what they want to do. Life shouldnt be an extended reality show in home for the kid, hope it wouldnt be..

]]> By: chakky http://milestogo.in/2009/02/12/when-in-rome-do-as-the-romans-do/comment-page-1/#comment-13174 chakky Sat, 14 Feb 2009 07:47:06 +0000 http://milestogo.in/?p=196#comment-13174 Maybe you should see apocalypto once more or maybe rethink back to say a 100 years. Kids were not always playing around. For that matter, at six and seven they were being married off. At one point of time that was the expected norm. What we strongly feel today as bad is because of our judgemental nature. Personally, I too expect to see kids playing around at 5-6 years of age, but different people have different priorities... and its differently right and wrong.. :) If my kids end up playing their childhood while everyone makes them into stars, when the kids grow up they will tell me, I prepared them improperly to face the new world.. so end of the day, its all ethics and ground reality is where you are based that decides how you bring them up..... when girls drive cars in my neighbourhood, I should not be the one tell my kids I wont teach you at 15 years though your capable because official rule is 18 years.. :) Thats why I said, we decide what our ethics are on matters and nothing is permanent or hard and fast.. Maybe you should see apocalypto once more or maybe rethink back to say a 100 years. Kids were not always playing around. For that matter, at six and seven they were being married off. At one point of time that was the expected norm. What we strongly feel today as bad is because of our judgemental nature. Personally, I too expect to see kids playing around at 5-6 years of age, but different people have different priorities… and its differently right and wrong.. :) If my kids end up playing their childhood while everyone makes them into stars, when the kids grow up they will tell me, I prepared them improperly to face the new world.. so end of the day, its all ethics and ground reality is where you are based that decides how you bring them up….. when girls drive cars in my neighbourhood, I should not be the one tell my kids I wont teach you at 15 years though your capable because official rule is 18 years.. :) Thats why I said, we decide what our ethics are on matters and nothing is permanent or hard and fast..

]]> By: Varghese M http://milestogo.in/2009/02/12/when-in-rome-do-as-the-romans-do/comment-page-1/#comment-13155 Varghese M Fri, 13 Feb 2009 16:01:24 +0000 http://milestogo.in/?p=196#comment-13155 Yes Nasra, I do feel there are better things to do at this age. In fact the situation seems to be worse when it comes to school. I am horrified by the level expectations put on kids by contemporary society. Feels sad for the students carrying those 5-10kg bags to school. While it may not be fair to judge an apporach, it is hard not to be in the game or to find a sensible balance. Yes Nasra, I do feel there are better things to do at this age.
In fact the situation seems to be worse when it comes to school. I am horrified by the level expectations put on kids by contemporary society. Feels sad for the students carrying those 5-10kg bags to school.
While it may not be fair to judge an apporach, it is hard not to be in the game or to find a sensible balance.

]]> By: nasrajan http://milestogo.in/2009/02/12/when-in-rome-do-as-the-romans-do/comment-page-1/#comment-13142 nasrajan Fri, 13 Feb 2009 05:49:55 +0000 http://milestogo.in/?p=196#comment-13142 Varghese - Yea, each parent should think sensibly first. Chakky - Yes, true :-) Its the same east meets west story. That is why I kept the title like this. Anyway, from my view, I don't judge it right or wrong. I only feel that everything has a time, including what the children should act and do at their age :-) Let children be children till they are grown ups to the harsh realities. Varghese – Yea, each parent should think sensibly first.

Chakky – Yes, true :-) Its the same east meets west story. That is why I kept the title like this. Anyway, from my view, I don’t judge it right or wrong. I only feel that everything has a time, including what the children should act and do at their age :-) Let children be children till they are grown ups to the harsh realities.

]]> By: Varghese M http://milestogo.in/2009/02/12/when-in-rome-do-as-the-romans-do/comment-page-1/#comment-13125 Varghese M Thu, 12 Feb 2009 23:45:47 +0000 http://milestogo.in/?p=196#comment-13125 Yes, that does qualify for an explanation. True. Everyone seem to develop their own code of conduct and 'right' ethics/values over the years. It all depends on which side you are. Just that there is a glaring difference in the perspectives here. No wonder I never watch these shows while others go to such questionable extremes. Yes, that does qualify for an explanation. True. Everyone seem to develop their own code of conduct and ‘right’ ethics/values over the years. It all depends on which side you are. Just that there is a glaring difference in the perspectives here.
No wonder I never watch these shows while others go to such questionable extremes.

]]> By: chakky http://milestogo.in/2009/02/12/when-in-rome-do-as-the-romans-do/comment-page-1/#comment-13106 chakky Thu, 12 Feb 2009 10:37:25 +0000 http://milestogo.in/?p=196#comment-13106 Hmm, its basically a survival trait. A dance number like "aisa jadoo" will hurt the sentiments of a typical Malayalee group but if you go to North India things change. Its the same east meets west story you are seeing. One culture trying to imbibe the other thinking this is what matters for a superb life. We all do it in our own ways and someone is disgusted at some point which we are not aware off .. Its like my friend Kishore saying, everyone defines their own ethics and thinks its the only right thing.. Hmm, its basically a survival trait. A dance number like “aisa jadoo” will hurt the sentiments of a typical Malayalee group but if you go to North India things change. Its the same east meets west story you are seeing. One culture trying to imbibe the other thinking this is what matters for a superb life. We all do it in our own ways and someone is disgusted at some point which we are not aware off .. Its like my friend Kishore saying, everyone defines their own ethics and thinks its the only right thing..

]]> By: Varghese M http://milestogo.in/2009/02/12/when-in-rome-do-as-the-romans-do/comment-page-1/#comment-13104 Varghese M Thu, 12 Feb 2009 06:06:11 +0000 http://milestogo.in/?p=196#comment-13104 Sick! It left a sick feeling in my gut. I hope I won't have to become a retard like those 'parents' in this crazy demanding world:-/ Sick! It left a sick feeling in my gut. I hope I won’t have to become a retard like those ‘parents’ in this crazy demanding world:-/

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